As I sit here eating a box of chocolate truffles that I bought for myself and sip my Starbucks, I’m reflecting on the past week which included Valentine’s Day, a bad date, and an ex-boyfriend deciding to resurface in my life… I’ve listened to friends complain, and I’ve complained myself of the lack of decent men in the world and I wonder ‘where have all the good men gone?’ This is almost becoming a joke! Ha-ha. But we’re not laughing.I always offer to pay on dates and don’t mind paying for my own – but I ended up paying the entire bill for this stranger that I will never see again. Now I know how guys feel...He asked for a third date, but after barely being able to keep a conversation flowing and then the infamous wallet stunt, I thought we better just end things sooner rather than later … The poor thing was so embarrassed that he never even ended up calling again.
I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again – it’s better to be single than sorry! Never, ever settle with someone just to have a boyfriend. I've seen many girls fall into this trap of settling for good enough, but then they get attached and comfortable and never end up finding "great". There is nothing wrong with being single and discovering yourself for a while, a part from a guy. That's actually a very healthy, smart thing to do! I think we cause ourselves more trouble when we try to force things. If you don’t click, you don’t click. Suck up the “loss” now before you get in too deep emotionally with someone who was unworthy in the first place. Don't buy into the lie that no one better will ever come along - we live in a BIG world, full of guys! If you struggle coming up with conversations with this person, if it is work, if you disagree on important things – he is not for you! And why would you want to work at making something happen that should just happen naturally?
If you were single this Valentine’s Day – celebrate! Congratulations to you for not settling for anything less than God’s best! Congrats on not changing who you are to fit someone else’s agenda or life. You have stayed true to you. You haven’t given in to society’s ways that tell you to graduate from college, get married and have kids – all in that order – all right away. Most of those who I’ve known who have done that are not happy now. They did what they thought they should do, they didn’t want to wait, and now they’re in a bigger mess. Waiting for the right guy is sooo worth the wait! Can you imagine what a nightmare it would be to wake up in the middle of the night sleeping next to someone you married and do not love? Wait for that person that makes your heart skip a beat, puts a smile on your face, gives you butterflies – but more importantly who connects to you emotionally, understands you, and shares the same values. Wait for the person who makes you want to be a better person, who challenges you and is your partner and team-mate in life -your best friend and your love. I know it’s hard to believe he could be out there in this world where most of us girls just go through dog after frog, but there are still some good men left! Pray for your future husband and live your life on purpose! Don’t just wait for him….because when he arrives he may not like what he finds. Get busy doing what God’s called you to do, make a living for yourself, work on becoming a better quality person… All the while he could be just right around the corner!
